First of all, wow, I’m 30 years old! Has anyone else said those words and thought to themselves, how did this happen?
Surprisingly, 30 isn’t that bad (at least not yet haha). I did go through a breakup, which it’s fun, but I think I’m handling it a lot better than I have in the past. One of the benefits of having your 20’s consist of risky decision making is that you get to learn a lot of lessons because you’re bound to have a few failures every time you leave the comfort zone. Each failure, although it sucks, brings an increase in strength.
Just like anything else, the more experience you get in something, the better you know how to maneuver it. That’s not to say it’s easy, because heartbreak is never easy. But, I know how to address it and handle it better than I have in the past. I also have more confidence in myself than I have in the past.
My biggest advice at this moment is learning to reflect. I think this is one of the first breakups where I really looked at myself. It’s was so easy to blame the other person when a relationship ended in the past….”They broke their promises”, “They weren’t consistent”, “They cheated”, and so on. Although these things could be true, no matter what happened, I am not perfect either. We all have things we can reflect on and work on. So that’s exactly what I did. I took a look at the relationship and asked myself, “What could I have done better?” I took ownership of my short comings with the hope of making changes so I can be better for myself and next relationship.
For more advice and a more in-depth perspective on how I’ve been handling this breakup, you can watch my video below.
Carissa 
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