You’re really upset that things aren’t going the way you wanted in your relationship. Sometimes you think of leaving to teach your partner a lesson. Everyone has heard the quote claiming that absence makes the heart grow fonder.  But, I’m sure “out of sight, out of mind” also rings a bell.

So, which one is it?

See the problem is, it seems like everyone wants to leave to teach the other person a lesson. It can be very satisfying to see someone scramble when you’re gone. But this time shouldn’t be about them.  It’s about you so stop thinking of them and do it for yourself.

Take a break so you can go out to dinner with close friends. It’s ok to take time during dinner to talk about your concerns. Real friends give real advice, but don’t get carried away. Have your moment and then talk about other things. Laugh and enjoy yourself.

Call your mother, aunt, grandmother, uncle, brother, or whoever and spend time with them. Get out of the house and clear your mind.

You might realize after several days that you actually feel good without the burden of that person. There is nothing wrong with this. You can take as many days as needed.

If you decide in the end that you don’t want the relationship, than “out of sight and out of mind” won. That person wasn’t right for you and that’s okay because there is someone better out there.

Some of you are probably thinking that would never happen. You know you will miss them greatly. That’s fine too, but at least you took the time to realize it. You can now have a conversation about your realization and discuss what you are both going to do to fix the relationship. In this case, absence did make the heart grow fonder.

We all know that emotions are hard to control. Sometimes we don’t know why we feel the way we do, we just do. So honestly, you cannot predict how distance will make you feel. We’ve seen it break relationships and we’ve also seen people get their act together once they feel something good is slipping away.

Either way, you have to take the break for yourself. If you are not happy then take a step back. When you separate yourself from the situation you will start to evaluate what is important. You will have a better understanding if something is worth fixing or better forgotten.