If I had to bet on our love, I wouldn’t put the money on us lasting a lifetime. We know our odds. They aren’t in our favor. We get credit for not letting the lack of likeliness stop us, but we both know this will always be a tough battle.
So what would I bet on then….
It’s human nature to want to be loved. We need friends to reassure us that we belong. But as time goes on, the importance of quantity diminishes and quality rises . My smaller, solid group of loyal and supportive friends has brought me more happiness than being popular ever has.
Although it may sound harsh, getting rid of friends is necessary at times. I want to invest myself in people that genuinely care, love, and support. Not people that come around when it is convenient or serves them.
I took the time to evaluate what people I want in my life and these are the people I chose for my team.
1. You don’t shave your legs, straighten your hair, and put on your best clothes every day just incase they run into you somewhere or ask to hang out. They know you are a real human being who is not perfect 24/7. They will still touch your stubbly unkept legs…or in my case, run their hands through my week long dry-shampoo hair.
2. You don’t need extravagant plans to impress or see each other. You’re happy with doing just about anything. They can come over in sweatpants and hang out, go grocery shopping, or sit on a sidewalk and talk. The conversation and laughter comes easy, it doesn’t matter where you are.
3. When you do want to make plans, there’s no hyperventilating before inviting them. When you need a date for a wedding in a month, you invite them. It’s simple. They will go with you as long as they don’t have something else planned.
4. You have no issue talking about what’s on your mind. You say the really dumb things you wanted to say before, but were too afraid of looking stupid. You’re past worrying about being judged because they know your silly, loud, or crazy side and still haven’t ran……yet.
You’ve proven yourself time and time again, but this is still new to me and old habits die hard.
I’m the first to jump to conclusions. I can convince myself of almost anything and I’ll always take the first opportunity to run. It’s nothing against you. It’s just who I’ve become.
I associate commitment with a loss of independence and my heart naturally longs for freedom.
Deep down I know relationships don’t have to be suffocating. I’m just biased because it’s all I’ve known.
But I think you can change my mind. You never ask too much of me. You care without expectation. I appreciate that about you. So I’ll try to be a better me because you’re always giving the best of you.
I’m sitting on a plane, staring out the window at the clouds beneath me. They are different shades of beautiful colors from the sunset.
I start to think of life. Everything that’s changing around me.
As I’m thinking, you come to mind.
I have come to the realization that I can give good advice when it comes to relationships, but I refuse to follow it in my own life.
I know what I should be doing and then I consciously do the opposite. I purposely don’t answer phone calls, refuse to send text messages first, and God forbid I let anyone meet my friends or family. I keep everyone at a safe distance.
So what do I do when I meet someone I genuinely like, but bad habits start taking over?
You and I decided to go to a bar. It was within walking distance. We had low expectations for the night since we were both sleeping twenty minutes prior to leaving.
On our way there, you plucked a small flower out of the dirt road and handed it to me. That was when our insignificant night turned important.
I’ve walked by hundreds of flowers in my lifetime. I have never stopped to pick one for somebody. Neither has anyone ever picked one for me.
Part of the problem is that I’m so absorbed in my thoughts that I pay no attention to what’s around me. We live in a generation that constantly looks down at their phones. The only time we pay attention to the scenery is when we want to take a picture for Snapchat. We check Instagram during dinner. We update Facebook statuses while talking with friends.
Everyone has forgotten to live in the moment….everyone but you.
That’s when I first realized to appreciated you.
I think we’ve all found ourselves sitting around a table with friends trying to figure out if someone is into us. The answer is simple…if you have to question it, it’s probably not that serious. But incase you don’t see it simply, here are your signs to look for. Continue reading
