It’s not what you fight about, it’s how you fight


The cliche line comes spewing out of my mouth mid-argument, “If you think we’re fighting about the plans, you have no idea what we’re fighting about.” I see those eyes staring back at me in confusion.

We’ve all had these kinds of fights. The ones that could have been avoided if we said something sooner, before we were angry and just took the next opportunity to let it all out.

How did this happen? More importantly, how do I stop it from happening again?

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10 Signs It’s More Than A Crush



1. You aren’t awkward anymore. It’s crazy to think this, but you’re actually yourself.  You say all the really stupid things you wanted to say before, but stopped yourself. It’s way past being worried about being judged. They already know you have a silly, loud, or crazy side and they didn’t run away.

2. You don’t need to do extravagant things or planned out date nights together. You’re happy with doing just about anything. With the right person, you could literally sit on a sidewalk and talk.  Conversation and laughter comes easy.

3. You stop analyzing everything they say and do. You don’t need hints to find out how you should feel or where they stand.

4. There’s no hyperventilating before inviting them somewhere with you. When you need a date for an event in a month, you invite them. It’s simple. They will go with you as long as they don’t have something else planned.

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Learn To Give Your Best


You’ve proven yourself time and time again, but this is still new to me and old habits die hard.

I’m the first to jump to conclusions. I can convince myself of almost anything and I’ll always take the first opportunity to run. It’s nothing against you. It’s just who I’ve become.

I associate commitment with a loss of independence and my heart naturally longs for freedom.

Deep down I know relationships don’t have to be suffocating. I’m just biased because it’s all I’ve known.

But I think you can change my mind. You never ask too much of me. You care without expectation. I appreciate that about you. So I’ll try to be a better me because you’re always giving the best of you.

The Sabotage Queen



I have come to the realization that I can give my friends great advice when it comes to relationships, but I refuse to follow it in my own life.

I know what I should be doing and then I consciously do the opposite. I purposely don’t answer phone calls, refuse to send text messages first, and God forbid I let anyone meet my friends or family. I keep everyone at a safe distance.

So what do I do when I meet someone I genuinely like, but bad habits start taking over?

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